If you are new to my blog or do not know me well, here’s a piece of information that you need to know before you read this post…I have not found “The One”. In fact, I have, unfortunately, been divorced twice. I won’t go into details because I do not feel they are really pertinent to this post, but suffice it to say, I have spent a good number of years since those marriages learning how to find “The One”.
First though, I want to define “The One”. “The One” is the person out there that God has created for you since the beginning of time. He knows who will be the one person in this world who will give you the Spiritual, emotional, physical relationship that is God-centered that you need. I need to say here that I think it is possible (because I have done it) that we settle for less than “The One”. When this happens, DO NOT give up on that marriage just because you know you made a mistake or you are having problems. God does not desire this! Instead, work hard at your marriage and your relationship with God and He can turn your current marriage into “The One”!
If you haven’t find that person yet, here are a few tips…
1. Don’t try finding him/her until you have found God first! – This is the most important step. If you don’t have God in your life, finding “The One” is going to fail miserably.
2. Begin praying for “The One” right now! – This is probably the second most important step you can take. Recently I reviewed a book over at For What It’s Worth called “Praying for Your Future Husband”. This book discusses why it’s important to begin praying for that future mate immediately, if not early in your life, and gives some fantastic examples of ways that God used those prayers before the couples got together. I encourage you to read this.
3. Figure out who you are and what you (within God’s will) want out of your life. – I cannot stress this enough! It took two divorces, a lot of heartache, and many years since to determine exactly who I am and what I want out of my life. I finally know what I want for my career, what type of person I truly am and what types of things I want to do and be involved in in my personal life.
4. Figure out what traits you want in your significant other. – You know, we joke about having lists…I have a packing list for vacation, a to-do list for work, a cleaning list for home, a chores list for my son, and so on. A list of things that you want in a future mate will help you narrow things down. For example, your list for your significant other should always start with Godly! From there it can include wants children, loves the outdoors or loves theater, etc. But knowing what you are looking will keep you from settling for less than you deserve. If you are not an outdoorsy type person who loves to camp in tents and hike up the mountain (so not me!), then you want to be sure that the person you spend your life with does not have this as a requirement on their list. See where I’m going with this?
5. Finally, when you do begin dating, be sure that the person you date is praying with you, not just saying they are, but actually praying with you. This will prove that the two of you are putting God first and therefore will make the best decisions because they will be God-driven decisions.
I wish you well as you set off to find “The One”. I wish myself well while I’m at it! And if you have already found that person, BRAVO! Keep God first and the rest will fall into place!
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